art. & •• t. rt ai a .... at Sandi OuBowski set out to film the hidden world of gay and lesbian Orthodox Jews-.:md created a real·life shift toward undmtanding and acceptan~e By MicfIaeI GiItz D ~ """ """'" -,. sid io oittIn8 on the ck<:k otl ...</p><p> G .... nwlch VIII .. " spa,,Â"",,'_a qUiet, ,.een oa,l. .. be", be hao _ .It-wWI hoUdl) .. wltII _ and hold the "nj) ~y tOf hII doc:um"'''''Y nl", no-. b/;ItfI~G..t Dulklw.kr. gro,,,,db,uklnll film, which 0\><'''' at 1'I1m Foro," In New Y(I<k CitJr on October:U , hao ohady .uno<! dtbalc .. felthu WOI'I<IwkIe ...." lIB porUail ot the -..... of Pl' and I.-bin Orthodot and Huidlc ~ n-~)oe&m "'_ I<M! for \lIoir f'"tII wttII tMIr ~ and "nISI do "" under ..... tru.1oI of ..... laIlon !toll, ""'Ir fomili<o and OIII.-.odom from IIIoIrc:oonmW"llty.</p><p> Go,y IlIoSkllc .Ie ... ? II .......... iii« .. 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'>ld hAIl dono more thll".un. ply mak<! • "",,-Ie. ~, the ",,"'.,.. of Ills IIIrnnW<InJ, he belpod loom a ""\>" .. port FOUl> for Onhodoo! _ .....</p><p> IN,. w....</p><p> In t.o.~ ..... bn:>~ __ fal,~ dJaI<>IIuos, P'" people ~1n.I !>tip In """"" w!lh ""'" '""" .........</p><p> I~ ... d evefI In!.r<>doced RabbI SI ....</p><p> G~nb<.'-d>< """Id', II"" openly P1 Orthodo. rabbi-to tIio partner of IW<> )'1' ..... ~~ Ouao...'SId h"'I .~ u.... in a", ohatIo.....-U, lulllBted beaulifully by !he nlm, In wlIk:i'I _I. who ~ arr.!d .., ... _ ............. moct koois/l._ .. .... _ .., IIep inIo tho ~ 'If It _ juol. --r. it ........ be ~. "-YO Dul!owsIcL"ThIs film hoe " ......</p><p> IdouI..,...,tlal. ldohlUllnkI ..... tIdpottd thai.</p><p> Altho ~ II " .... ju5I "'Â¥ """ ptnomJ _ dIar)' obout whw,e. tile", " .... homo.nuo,lIIY In ~,. 0rtI>0d0x "'orld.</p><p> But "'hen 1_ m-.</p><p> P«JPIo who .... '" kicked WI 01 )'CIIII> .... !htown ... oflhrit fIo..wo., ~ ~ tlW-lnosIJanoJ or .. ~ It t>.came do.-!hal; Ihd ... mud'! """ 11-.. 1IInI_1I-.1 hod • ......" drep ..,. ,ttpoo od>iIq to u..</p><p> J><!OIlie I moe. • 'floe ..-m. have 1Iftn _1nI.</p><p> Iinu aim,,"' "''''111 time Ihe film I. shown.</p><p> I. marIoo a ftN of """ ., ... or anoth ...</p><p> A ""r ... mlng 0' • ,..,.,..,., lor ",bblll,rom pted one I~mal. rabbi.., .,.,.". out 0J'0(\ oauso;d ano(lIer nobbt ""'" .. ilia <Ionounood tho rum .. 0. UIOdoo: ~ ~ on I.fI«Imo In.I rioowInI, "'" _ .. an 0ntI0CI0.r.</p><p> I)'!>tCOCUt. (No\e: Tho hw/>rn m IN fIkn .. tiIlt ..a-. tho 0nI00cI.01 !>diet !hal; tho ...... of God is 100 _ .., be -.. or """ken dirKtIJ".) Al Swo, donet •• Mormon h~ and wife wkfd pUbikJ,v lor tl1.</p><p> IIrot. limo obout tho 1lusbMd'. otnJggie5 with bell" JOY, 'W,,"t I find i""piling I, workln' wi,h ~ "'1,,, doo',""" ~ to Oyt and)'et)'QU r.m """'" «"0'.,.' ~ on wIokh .., """'"' I~ • MYI Ou- 80 .. 1<1 ....... updat<s "'" .....-i. an.;! the ..... of tho people ..</p><p> II ..... 11'01> _ ~~Iwho_n.ndto COIt\ ....... therapy] """'"" to _ on tho I*'lOl in s.n I'norrioco.</p><p> It. opal. "",ed l<i David in r""'l of all U peopIo lor rot IOin!I wlIh NIIi "" Ildoo )OI1ITIt)'.</p><p> Dln>d w..,. hitallOCl<ed. · D.vld .... ho at first ;ljjonlzed O"e' ... htt/oer IHo ohould -wear in tho film, adn\ltf he ...</p><p> JlIq)rioed I>A not _r .. tb1led br {anjrtr"1 _ct!. 'Uen] ....</p><p> IOOWC oImooI. thmopy ..... .. _ of 1.5/XI people. _ It ..... llno , .. , """ .... lheR; 00)"1 o..id, ...... _ In t.o. ........ 1eI and has .... ""~ fro. quently ...</p><p> Ith "'" ru... ",. -...., .... to ttnI>ncinI.</p><p> I dldnl feel Ht~ I .... '" I 'r I .... ..-.itiool lor RAlobi ~ to AÂ¥ the ......</p><p> I"'lipyl thinp .. in the """""" But t.. ouruod 011" opal oP>b\iI 0!Id ""YIto8 t.. fell bod. lie dI<In~ Io.)'~' "' .. wrong. you .hould.ot. lov<:r and II" happily ""r aner whIo;:h II ... ~ I ....,ted hIIn to f&1.</p><p> II. :opolocbed for II>ndIiro.IIII.</p><p> Io • .""ectly.</p><p> But ,..lhIoj beinJ "'"'" ... pm ~ ..-Il .... ~· And tluIloorold'I taIioIk -... tor ....u .. _ ...... _...,,·M· (t""aol, R&bbl \.an.s..-qreed l<i doo ",,,-_'re caIIir\i ~ NJ#oI.</p><p> Uve In \hO euuo: ""l'" Dlil3ow5ld. "1t'11OIre to t..</p><p> I J1aco' SNobbaI witl1 1\","1 ..... of peoJlie ... h.m _ op<n tI'.e.oIricoIly" In San l'nr>cl$eo In Feb",Ol)', (TIle .... tlon&J .. ~ of Il>o 111m Or ~ to htCIn.lonllNy:Jl in Loo "'~ ) DliBowo.lcl -.. 1>0'00" mut:lo won: hoo 10 be _ WNIoIO'irc to _ pe0- ple \IO ..... 1lIo .. kru'!aIern. t..-.Ioe ~ thalllfltil a } __ "'" IIIere .._ no p)' Orthodox ..... ! _ or """" bMo of any ...... lie " .... f....,..t l<i tWId iAI. _ l<i ""'" ",no .... '" ..,.. inC """" oo.er in jldbli<: ~ The PQ!iI- 1M ~ of the fihn U....,_\ ...,... ....... ""tho)' "*,,,,\IO!JO. "I ""ion .h.</p><p> It.U' • f ... dlY. _; mnember! I)nIlow9:i. 'and on 0rd'I0d0x ....,....,. ......... "" l<i .... _ eaId. , ___ race. _ 010 I _ yo"t O·o-oh. )'Ou· ..... he _ In tho _: "'''' ....</p><p> I<anod In __ '" .... ~K'&)' nun ""'" f_ 'Can you I>oIp .... <:II'" mY ,." _1" H. ""'>k ""' number 1M. toool<ed ""' up aith II .. wIf. of • promlnen1 i1>bbI who ~a •• I •• hlln daugh.er, 'The ",bbl'o wII. wago', ready to IIPP"*' In !he IIlII'I, hu1 ....rdIin,g It com_ Mr ....... mdy to ~ '" """" """"'" radnlthe __ 'I_~ ord<:IpaIe ~.......e r"IlSi .......</p><p> Ilu8ooo"Yi "rd ol:np I'O\O'M "" ... 1111 • Jo>oo of.ludo.lsa. thai. ttrntl ....</p><p> IhHr, It)uot .-ltd ......</p><p> IhinlI to ~ Il' • GI4z"" ~~""" It> perlt>d • ""'"'" j..modi"" /Joe New Yorio: Po:ool. , .. ,
